PROTECT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

For most men, getting divorced after 40 years old represents much more than just the end of a marriage - it's often an earth-shattering event that leaves them questioning their purpose in life. The grief, anger, loneliness, and financial stress that accompanies divorce can take a major toll on mental health. Unfortunately, many men neglect their emotional well-being during this difficult transition.

If you're over 40 and going through a divorce, it’s essential to be proactive about safeguarding your mental health. Here's what you need to know:

Expect to Grieve - It's natural to feel profound sadness and grieve the loss of your hopes, dreams and marriage itself after a divorce later in life. You may have been with your partner for decades and envisioned growing old together. Allow yourself to fully process the grief - don't ignore it or think you can just immediately "get over it." Be patient with the grieving process. 

Manage Your Anger - Anger and resentment are normal emotions post-divorce. However, unchecked anger can sabotage your ability to heal and move forward. Find healthy ways to process these feelings like exercise, journaling or confiding in trusted friends. Don't suppress anger, but don't let it control you either. Channel it wisely. This was my biggest challenge.

Rebuild Your Self-Worth - For many men, their identity is strongly tied to traditional husband/provider roles. A divorce can severely damage self-esteem and self-confidence. Make rebuilding your self-worth a top priority. Explore activities you enjoy and find meaningful - they will help ground your self-image in your values versus just your marital status.

Combat Loneliness - It’s common to feel isolated after the loss of such an intimate relationship. Make social connections a priority post-divorce. Lean on close friends, join a local club, volunteer in your community or consider adopting a pet if you lived alone. Don't let loneliness add to your emotional struggles.

Get Financial Clarity - Money worries understandably weigh on recently divorced men. Consult a financial advisor to assess your financial standing and create a roadmap. Knowledge reduces fears about the future. Take it step-by-step - clarity brings calm.

Find Your Purpose - For men over 40, divorce often coincides with midlife challenges. Allow yourself to reevaluate your priorities and what provides meaning. Pursue education, career growth, travel or hobbies that align with your values. Discovering your purpose will uplift you.

Seek Professional Support - Don't underestimate the mental health benefits of speaking with a licensed therapist or counselor. They can help you work through your emotions and start healing. If needed, they may also recommend treatment for anxiety, depression or addictive behaviors. You don't have to tough this out alone.  Professional help is not overrated.

With some self-care and professional guidance, the emotional turbulence of divorce can be weathered. Safeguarding your mental health will allow you to emerge wiser, stronger and ready for whatever lies ahead. The future is bright for men who invest in their well-being.